Blah Blah, Just Do The Best You Can…

The boys are both off at school now – the eldest at college, the youngest just started his freshman year at high school today. According to my husband, this should be a time of “relaxation” for me. Ha. God, it’s like he doesn’t know me at all…

I have this painting sitting beside my desk. It’s small and inconsequential. It’s also not finished. This 10 x 10″ canvas is plaguing me. I’m tempted to box it up and shove it in a dark corner in the back of one of my closets. I’m not sure when I began to feel hostility towards the painting, but it’s there now.

Don’t get me wrong. The painting hasn’t slighted me. It didn’t forget to call when it said it would. It didn’t spit in my eye. It didn’t look at me as I passed wearing a new dress and say, “That’s a bit tight, isn’t it?” No, the painting hasn’t done anything except not live up to my standards, and in that respect, I cannot fault the painting as much as myself.

Yes, OK, I’m mad at myself. Does that make you feel better now? You’ve winkled it out of me. I’m disappointed in myself for the expectations I haven’t met with this latest work. My God, it looks like I’ve painted it with my toes, whilst blindfolded and three sheets to the wind. Grrr.

If you’re a regular reader, you know the painting is not for me. They very seldom are nowadays. It seems once I started working with oil on canvas, I stopped creating just to create, and created more to give joy or peace to someone I loved, or someone who was suffering. These days I paint to let people know I care. Oh, don’t get me wrong, I have these grandiose plans of creating a large canvas for the living room, I even have the subject picked out:

But whether I get around to doing it is another matter entirely. That’s my youngest, by the way, at Loch Shiel (Harry Potter’s “Hogwarts” location) in Glenfinnan, Scotland.

Anyhow, the latest canvas sits and mocks me with its unfinished edges, its rudimentary lines, I’ve even decided I don’t care for the colors. I’m really displeased with myself – and that, right there, is the problem. I’ve not sat down and told myself what I’d tell anyone else in my place, “Just do the best you can” or “Why don’t you put it away for a while and then come back to it with a clear head?” Is that human nature, do you suppose – to be so hard on ourselves, and yet so loving to others?

This painting is for someone I haven’t met in person. Someone I only know virtually. Someone who has gone through some pain this year. I was hoping the simple act of creating this for them would take some of that pain away, and let them know someone out there empathized with them. Instead, I’ve made a mess and haven’t accomplished anything. It looks as if I’ve given the brush and paints to a temper tantrum prone toddler after shutting off the TV in the middle of a Dora the Explorer episode. I’m talking epic fit. Alternatively, think moose locked in a small space with a brush attached to its antlers. That’s how bad it looks, OK?

Be that as it may, I don’t like quitting. When I get this tenacious, my eldest boy calls me “DOS Lady.” It stems from an episode when he was in 4th grade and I was trying to load a game for him on the computer but it kept slipping into DOS mode. Hours later he’d given up and wandered off, while I sat at the computer screaming a blue streak and damning every part of it to a fiery ever after.

“Mommy, just give up. I don’t even want to play that stupid game anymore.”

“NO! I won’t! It says to do this and I’ve done this so I don’t understand why the bloody thing won’t bloody work when it says it’s supposed to. What’s wrong with it? Why won’t it work?!” I wailed for the umpteenth time.

He squinted at me as if to gauge my mental acuity. Had she finally gone crazy? Was this all it took? “I don’t know,” he said, “but it’s time to give up. Come on, DOS Lady. Just give up.”

I gave up. It still leaves a bad taste in my mouth. To this day, I feel a sort of panic come over me when I see a computer in DOS mode…

Will this be my DOS Lady painting? My DOS Lady swan song? Who’s to say. All I know is when I’m done, I’ll have set out to do something kind, and given my best, and that’s all I can ask of myself.


4 responses to “Blah Blah, Just Do The Best You Can…”

  1. I’ve seen your paintings. They are magnificent and breath-taking. This one will be no exception I’m sure.
    You ARE kind and everyone is beginning to notice it now (there’s nothing you can do!) 😉


  2. Since you are creating this painting from love, it will be loved and appreciated. Maybe the colors that you now don’t like are actually that person’s favorite colors? Maybe the brush strokes will evoke an emotion that the person needs to feel comforted. Most importantly, the painting will be cherished because the recipient will feel your love and every time he or she looks at your painting, that love will envelop their pain and let them know that they are not alone… not misunderstood… not unloved. Even though your paintings ARE beautiful, it’s the fact that you are giving it full of love that will matter the most.

    By the way, I keep forgetting to tell you that I love this theme for your blog. The new header fits perfectly. (Though personally I prefer your paintings with water.)(or the large flowers)(or your sons)(or the Pooh ones)(oh, heck, I just love ALL of your work.)


    • You’re so kind, Dani. Thank you. The other painting was getting on my nerves. Today is the birthday of the person who has that painting, so I decided to change it. I love this one. I love Stonehenge. I love painting it. The light always changes and the slightest shift of movement gives you all new material. It’s beautiful.


  3. Well, DOS lady, I personally know that if you make it for someone out of love, it is loved – I mean look at the crap, um I mean crocheted or knitted or embroidered stuff I’ve given to friends, only a friend would say they loved it and mean it, and they have. Well now – you actually have this little ingredient I’m missing, it’s called TALENT. Yup you have it in spades. In your writing, in your painting in your being a great person. I am sure the painting is beautiful just as I am sure the person is loving it, almost as much as they love you for painting it, for thinking of them for loving them. xo Denise.


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